All Signs:
As you head into your weekend, the stars want you to be aware that some people have issues that go way beyond what you are capable of dealing with. You can try and try, and give it everything you have, but if you are dealing with an irrational mind, you will most likely fail.
There are people out there with some pretty severe damage, or chemical imbalances, or a multitude of other psychosis, and they are not dealing with it at all. You should definitely pity these people, and help them if you can, and treat them with kindness and respect.
The thing you should not do is get involved in any kind of romantic relationship with them, because it will never end well. They are not capable of love, or trust, or compassion, at least not for very long. They are wrapped up in their own problems, which usually involve being terrified and confused most of the time. They are full of doubt and self loathing, and they will transfer all that onto you and they will resent and hate you most of the time.
You will question yourself, because that’s what these people are good at. They manipulate, they accuse you of things you don’t do, they abuse you mentally and emotionally, and sometimes physically. They are scared because they can’t trust themselves or feel they have any control over their own lives, so they will try to control yours. They are convinced you will hurt them like everything else in their life has, and they end up working around the clock to ensure that never happens. They will tear you down, they will try to cajole you into complacency, they might even end up hurting or killing you in extreme cases.
So you end up becoming something you are not, and you settle for less and less as they take over your life and ruin your confidence and make you question who you are. It is all smoke and mirrors, and it is not real.
It is not their fault in most cases. They are sick, and they need help, so while you can’t expect them to treat you fairly, or even rationally, you also shouldn’t retaliate or try to punish them. You wouldn’t want to exact revenge on someone because they got cancer, would you? It’s the same thing if someone wronged you because they are mentally ill. In most cases they don’t know better, but you should.
The thing that makes it hard is that there will be good stretches, where they are lucid and seem like the person you want them to be. You will find that they can’t maintain it for long. They will slip back into being the person that they really are. And that person is fractured and not in control of their emotions or actions. You can’t outsmart them, or beat them at their own game, because it isn’t a game. It is the torturous existence they are living with as they try to cope with living in a world that makes no sense to them. All the time, it will erode your confidence and make you question yourself.
So what you have to do in these instances is just walk away.
It might be one of the hardest things you have to do, but once you do, the fog will start to lift. You might find, to your shock, that you have started taking after them. You will most likely find that they dragged you down and you didn’t even notice, or if you did, you tried your best to ignore it. You might find that you have been living your life in accordance to ridiculous and irrational motives, and wonder just what the hell happened to you.
Because unless these people get the professional help they need, you are not going to do them any good. You will enable them, you will stunt your own life, you will give everything you have, and instead of raising them up, they will pull you down.
So walk away, before you hurt yourself and enable them to further destroy themselves, or before you snap and your love turns to cruelty.
The stars want you to know that it never ends well. That might sound cruel, or defeatist, but it is the truth, but if you don’t walk away you will end up chasing your own tail and most likely alienating yourself from the people in your life that truly care.
So walk away, and walk back towards the light and who you really are.
The stars will be there, waiting for you as always.
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