4/30/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to make you understand that if you have someone you love in your life with severe mental illness, you shouldn't hurt them.

What they mean by that is, most of the time what you think is help is the opposite. You might try to fix them, you might try to appease them, you might try to love them and ease their suffering. You can't. You are just enabling them, or giving them ammunition to feed their delusions and twist it into an attack on you or themselves.

All this energy and love is wasted unless they are getting professional help. The stars are not saying that you should abandon them, or shun them, they are saying the opposite. Get them real help, and stop feeding their illness. Understand that unless they are willing to accept that help, and actively take part in their recovery, nothing you can do short of institutionalizing them will get them there. Hopefully it won't come to that. Don't give up on them, but don't ruin your life in the process.

The stars know it's not easy living with someone like this in your life. Walking on eggshells, taking abuse and dealing with their psychosis, all the time wondering why you can't make it better, why you can't save them. They will frustrate you, and drag you down, and make it a point to hurt you.

But the stars want you to understand that when they tell you about love and wonder, and encourage you and give you a little pep talk to get you through your day, that is not advice for people with debilitating mental health issues. The stars see these people, and it breaks their hearts, but there is nothing romantic or magical they can say to them that will help. These people are shattered, and even with professional help and medicine, they may never be whole again.

You are just being selfish if you continue to try to make them into someone that they can't be, to fix them or to make them be who they were before the illness took them. With real help, they might come back, but they most likely never be that person you remember, and if you can't love whatever they turn out to be, then that's on you.

The stars implore you to take care of yourself and watch out, because you might lose yourself while you're trying to find the person you somehow lost.