12/20/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

Maybe you can’t save everybody.  

Maybe you can’t stop someone you love from self destructing and save them from years of misery or an early grave.

Maybe no matter how much you try, some of the kids with cancer will die.  Perhaps those starving people in Africa are going to starve no matter how much spare change you send them.

Odds are that no matter what you do, there will be homeless people sleeping on the street in the cold tonight.  Drunks, drug addicts, mentally unstable people, good people down on their luck, woman hiding from an abusive partner, veterans left with nothing after service to their country, all out in the cold with nowhere to go.

Perhaps you can’t save every cat, dog or any other pet from a life of cruelty or a feral existence.  You probably can’t help every endangered species or stop abuse at circuses and zoos and a million other “entertainments” involving animals. You won’t be able to close down every puppy mill or pet store or dog fighting ring.

You won’t be able to buy a new house for a family displaced by a fire or stop drugs from claiming our young and old alike or raise enough money for someone’s medical treatment.

Chances are you can’t stop governments and corporations or religious fanatics laying waste to whole areas and families because of oil or land interests, and so many innocent people unfortunate enough to be caught in the middle will die or lose everything they have.

People will still die and suffer and leave you and all your good intentions and hard work will seemingly be for naught.

The stars want you to know that it is not for naught.  Just because the odds are against you doesn’t mean you don’t try.  Never stop trying.  Give it your all until you have nothing left to give, then give some more.

Because sometimes the people in need, the sick and the dying, the animals, the crazy people, the burnt and broken husks of humanity left just don’t have the means to tell you, but it matters so, so much.

So even though your heart is breaking, keep helping.

The stars want you to remind you that if you think it’s bad now, think how much worse it would be without the help you’re giving.

What you do matters.

12/19/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to talk about love. Love can be the best thing in the universe. It can heal you, it can save you, it can make everything alright.

When you are in love with someone you have another person that can give you something no one else can. There is a closeness and a trust that you can get nowhere else.

It can support you when you need it most, it can make you feel like there is nothing you can't do.

It is the most pure and wonderful thing that there is.

But it can also hurt you deeper than anything else. It can tear you apart and leave you devastated and damaged.

But they aren't talking about that.

Even when love is great, there is always going to be moments when you lie to the person you're closest to, to protect them or your relationship.

There are going to be moments of doubt when you are lying next to them in bed and wonder just what they haven’t told you.

Love can magnify your insecurities and your fears a hundred fold and if you’re not careful you can find yourself wasting your life wondering about something that you are sure of and before you know it you will have driven away the person that loved you most.  Or did they …?

There are times you have to give so much of yourself and suffer in silence and live with the fact that the other person is never going to know or understand the things you went through and did for them and the love you share. You have to be careful that selfless act doesn’t turn into resentment.

It can be exquisite torture sometimes, and the stars want to make sure that you understand that even though it might be torture, it is still the best thing you will ever get.

That’s why it’s so complicated but simple, magical and heartbreaking, all at the same time, and even though it might sound like the scariest thing in the world, the stars envy you that you can experience it.

12/14/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to remind you that if you feel like crying sometimes, just cry.  

Don’t feel foolish, don’t feel weak, don’t question it.

Just cry until your face is a mess and there is snot running from your nose.

There is nothing wrong with you, there is no shame or embarrassment, there is just your mind and body doing what it has to do to help maintain its sanity and itself.

It is a cleansing.

It is your soul shining through, so don’t try to dampen that light even though it seems like the darkness.

Crying lets the light in.

The stars  want to remind that it is okay to cry, so for their sake and for yours, just cry if you feel you have to.  

Then go out to the other room and fix dinner or go out and change your world, if that’s what needs to be done.  

Start by crying.

12/13/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

Today the stars want to talk to you about hope.  Never give up hope.  That sounds like a simple statement, but it’s not easy maintaining hope.  Hope almost seems like a liability at times.

Hope seems to build up your expectations only to dash them to bits.  To hope sometimes means to be let down.  That’s why it’s called hope, so don’t let that disappoint you.

The stars want to remind you though, that like most things, hope is your responsibility.  When you hope for unreasonable or unattainable things, that is not hope, that is self delusion.  There is such a fine line between a desirable outcome when the odds are against it and simply fooling yourself.

Most of us fool ourselves by clinging to something that is already long gone and blaming hope or fate when it’s our own fault as usual.  There are certainly many things in this world that are out of our control, but many more times we sit and do nothing and blame the world.

And other times still we put all we have into something and plead with the universe that it works out.  Many times it doesn’t, and it is crushing. In many of those instances we knew it was a lost cause, but we still tried so hard against all the voices screaming in our head because we felt we had no choice.  Maybe we didn’t.  

Sometimes you have to just see some things through, even though you know that there is no good outcome.  You drive yourself to the edge and then have to crawl your way back, beaten and fooled by hope once again.

But you knew there was no hope all along.  You went down that hard, desolate road again, even though you knew that.  It is both our downfall and the thing that makes us great, that we have to see for ourselves and get crushed by the burden.

Then there is nothing else to do but hope we can recover and come back from it.

The stars want you to know that this is the point where hope sustains you, feeds you, keeps you going.  Because you are going to make it.  

You know that too.

12/12/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars feel it too.

Every time you see the snow coming down and it reminds you of Christmas when you were a child, trudging through the snow to come home to a warm house and your mother's embrace, or looking out the window as the snow fell, safe in your house as the world turned white.

Every time you come across a picture of someone that's been lost to you, and your mind gets lost in joyous memory until you feel that loss a thousand-fold, and your mind spends the rest of the night wondering what might have been.

When you come across a movie or TV show that you haven't seen in a long time and it brings you back to a time and place that at least seemed happier and simpler and your heart aches to be able to go back and relive it all again, but you know relentless time is forever marching you in the other direction.

When you find yourself alone in bed at night and question every decision you ever made and it seems like there's a chance that you might have done everything as wrong as you possibly could. Every lost love and moment of inaction and times you just came up short floods into your mind and makes you question what life's all about. You wonder if you're just feeling sorry for yourself or if you settled for less than you deserved.

Whenever your heart and soul cry out to you and you can't quite make sense of what it is that they are trying to tell you, but it doesn't feel like something you particularly want to hear…

The stars feel it too.

The pull of regret and memories that make you shudder, or feel such a longing that you think you can't ever get something back that's lost forever, even if you don't know exactly what it is.

That pull is stronger than all the gravity that holds the universe together and keeps it moving in an appearance of clockwork regularity.

So don't be afraid when it hits you and brings all the crushing weight of your existence bearing down on you.

You're not alone.

The stars feel it too.

12/9/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to understand that when you say that everything happens for a reason or that it's fate or destiny and things will magically work out… well, that's you, you idiots.

You make things happen. True, an opportunity might present itself and you can jump on it and things work out for the better, but again, that's you taking advantage of a lucky break.

Or it's other people that make it happen. What you might be crediting to fate or destiny or some deity is actually your loved ones breaking their ass to keep you afloat.

The stars understand about leaving things to the whims of fate and the universe. They are hurled scattershot through the cosmos, sometimes being obliterated without a second thought when galaxies collide or simply being pulled apart by gravity because they drifted too close to a black hole.

That's what destiny will get you.

The stars implore you, do it yourself and stop waiting for fate or your mom to fix it, or you might wake up one day to find that most “destinies” are not the cheery outcomes you think they are.

12/5/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind men of a few things:

You are physically bigger, and therefore very intimidating to women. You need to be aware of that. Most men are not, and they barrel their way through life and cause a lot of anxiety and tension that they are oblivious of.

Being a male, you have a lot of advantages and power in today's society. You might feel like you don't, but trust me, you do. Don't just be content to drift along and be part of the boys club. Part of the effect living in a patriarchal society causes is that women are raised to believe a lot of garbage. They will make all sorts of excuses for men, because that's what they've been taught. As disgusting as it is, a lot of them “know their place”, and if they don't there are more than enough abusive jerks to remind them with put downs and threats. So men need to stop taking the easy way out, and advantage of the fact that most women have been conditioned to take care of these big babies that never learn to take care of themselves, and they should give more than their usual 10%.

You are full of doubt and insecurity. Part of that is society, and leftover evolutionary remnants that make growing up male one long competition, full of beat downs and insults meant to control and dominate you. You should be smart enough to realize what that is and not turn around and use those tactics on women. Many men don't. They have a women that loves them but they never see it because they are still that adolescent, worried about their looks or sports prowess or penis size, so they assume the woman that loves them sees them the same way. So they try to dominate and control her the way the other boys tried to do to them. This is wrong and unacceptable and must be stopped immediately. Not only are you causing irreparable harm to the woman you claim to love, you are destroying your own chance at happiness. The stars couldn't be more adamant in this warning.

The stars implore you to do better. If you had positive male role models in your life, follow their example, not the voice of that arrested development kid in your head.

If you had bad male role models growing up, break the cycle and do better for yourself, and don't pass those traits onto your children. You also have a responsibility to your daughters, to raise them with pride and to expect more out of men.

As in all things, be self aware and see what you are doing to your life and the lives of others. Men have a lot of power in this world, and it is up to them to use it responsibly.

The stars are watching.

12/2/16

Friday Bonus Horoscope

And yeah, that usually implies that there was a normal Friday Horoscope preceding this one, but the stars want you to mind your own business.

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:
Today is Friday, and the stars usually give you a little pep talk and tell you to have a good time, but this Friday they really mean it. Christmas is coming, and it can seem like the whole month is now taken up with planning and buying gifts and finding ways to get to visit everyone you have to.
In short, it is most likely that the next few weeks will be about pleasing everyone else, and that’s okay, but tonight take a little time and give yourself a holiday gift. You deserve it, so have a little fun, forget about all the things on your list for an hour or two and just make yourself happy.
It’s your Christmas gift to you, and you already know your size and what color you like, so it should be a good one.
The stars don’t care if you’ve been naughty or nice either. They aren’t putting conditions on it. Sometimes the naughty ones need a gift much more than the nice ones anyway.

12/1/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to tell you to just be nice.  Even for a little while.  

If all the instruction and tips they give you seem like a lot, and overwhelming at times, if you sometimes are trying to do too many things at once and be too many things to too many different people, just remember to be nice.  

If you can’t get yourself to do anything else, just take a second every once in awhile before you utter some hurtful words or raise your voice or fists in anger, just be nice, and walk away if you have to.  Better to say nothing than to say something harmful.

The stars want you to know that even though it seems like the world is tearing itself apart and going to hell these days, even though you think it’s hopeless at times, that you can help make a difference. You don’t have to contribute to its downfall.

Just be nice.

11/30/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to remind you that if you’ve ever been the victim of physical or sexual violence that it is not your fault.  

Unless you were trying to inflict grievous harm on someone else in some extreme case, there is no excuse for it.  It doesn’t matter if you lied or cheated or stole.  It doesn’t matter if you were drunk or dressed provocatively or in the wrong place at the wrong time.  It doesn’t matter if your opinion is different or if you made someone feel foolish or uncomfortable.  It doesn’t matter at all.  Nothing excuses another person hitting or belittling or taking advantage of or raping anyone.  Not just women, anyone.  

Violence is pretty much everywhere these days, and people have just come to take it as a part of life.  This is unacceptable.  

People hit their kids and teach them that violence is the answer to life’s problems.  People see action stars and super heroes punching and killing their foes, and it reinforces the notion that might is right.  People see celebrities and rich people getting away with sexual abuse and domestic violence because of their position in society and they start to think that maybe it’s okay.  

It is not okay.

Not by a longshot.

When you commit abuse against another person you take something away from them that they may never get back.  You doom them to a life of reliving trauma, questioning their self worth and ruining any chance they might have of happiness.  They might spend the rest of their days not trusting anyone, always wondering when they might turn on them too, feeling like they disserved whatever evil befell them.

You doom them to a half life, scared and unsure and unable to grow.

The stars are here to tell you that you didn’t deserve any of it.  You are just as beautiful and pure and lovely as you were before anything bad every happened at all.  Just because that beauty is now hidden away from the world and yourself does not mean it isn’t there and that no one can see it.

People can, and the stars can, and they know that it might be a long, hard climb back to the light, but remember that the light will always be there waiting for you.

Always.

11/29/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to explain to you that they have been emitting particles for billions of years.  Trillions upon trillions of them per second, from trillions and trillions of stars.  These neutrinos pass through everything in their way, including you.  The sun alone sends 65 billion of them streaming through every square centimeter of your body every second. We are awash in them, particles formed at the time of creation, that started their journey to you before the galaxy existed.  Every light you see in the sky is at that second bombarding you with other light particles too, otherwise you wouldn’t be able to see them.  All your life, before you were born, even while you were atoms making up another star or a dinosaur or Alexander the Great or Caligula, every second, touched and probed by light from a billion suns.  That light and those particles had a minute influence on each of those atoms and in some ways made you into you.

And that is how the stars know who you are.

They know the real you, the hopeless romantic that wants it all to work out right.

The devastation of when it doesn’t, and the raw nerves you sometimes have to concentrate on with all your might to calm them down so you can make it through the next minute, let alone the next day.

The part of you that still thinks like a child until your mind catches it and tells you to grow up and do the responsible thing and the twinge of sadness when you actually do.

The times of sheer joy when the child inside of you tells the adult in you to shove it and risks injury and reprimand and does what it wants anyway.

The times words like “I’m sorry” or “I love you” or “Please don’t go” caught in your throat a second too long and now you have a lifetime of wondering what might have been.

The times you cry, sometimes out of grief, sometimes out of joy, sometimes for some reason that seems even silly to you, but you cry all the same and hope no one sees.

The vivid memories in your mind that might not be the exact way it happened, but they are home to you all the same.

The fear you feel as you age and those memories seem to start slipping away and you lay in the dark and wonder how much you might lose of yourself.

All the loss and tragedy that still comes from out of nowhere to remind you that it is still lost to you and nothing you can do will ever change it, and the wound that you thought had healed feels fresh all over again.

All the shame and guilt and fear you carry around with you because you hold onto memories of things that will haunt you forever.

The moment you meet someone and think that maybe they are the one that will help the ghosts that haunt you will go away, and the ache when they pass out of your life as quickly as they entered and leave you alone with your ghosts again.

The times you try so hard, with everything you have, and it still comes up short somehow.  

They see how empty it can leave you, how draining it is and how bruised and battered you are.

And they see you get up and somehow do it all over again, with resolve you didn’t even know you possessed.

But the stars knew.  After all, you are made up of them, constructed with atoms forged in their core.  

We are the stars.

And we knew all these things all along too.

The stars just want to remind their children of that, and that they love you and are proud of you and all that you truly are.

11/27/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

Today the stars want to plead to you. They want to beg you. Please stop punishing yourselves. Most of the turmoil in our lives is avoidable. Most of the emotional pain you are suffering from is all self inflicted, or you allow others to inflict it on you and do your dirty work for you.

You are beating yourselves up for things that aren't your fault, or if they are your fault, they are easily correctable.

The one thing that perplexes the stars is that with all our gifts we possess, the most prevalent one seems to be how to prove how much we hate ourselves.

We sabotage ourselves, we deny ourselves, we do penance where no penance is due. We put ourselves in dangerous situations again and again, and we run from those who truly love us.

So please, for God's sake, stop doing it. They implore you. Your better life is so tantalizingly close, stop pushing it away. Get some help if you need it, let those that love you simply love you, and stop working against yourself.

The stars want to remind you that while you're punishing yourself, you are also punishing those that love you, and they don't need any extra help in that department either.

11/24/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

Today is Thanksgiving, and the stars are fine with you being thankful for the good fortune you've had and the people on your life.

They don't mind you giving thanks for any little thing in your life that you feel you should be grateful for.

They just want you to make sure you save some big thanks for yourself. You've overcome some pretty harsh times this year. You've gone out of our your way on more than one occasion to help someone that needed it.

Most importantly though, you've gotten through a bunch of things, big and small, and most of the time it was probably all you.

You don't give yourself enough credit, so now it's time to start. Thank yourself for being you. No one else is you, and you have been kicking around this world your whole life and doing fine.

So thank yourself first and foremost, because we seldom think to do it nearly as much as we should.

11/23/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to know that they sympathize. They see that the world is sometimes darkness, with nothing but sharp edges waiting for you to walk into.

They know that life can bring you to the brink over and over, and many times salvation seems like prolonging the agony.

They know that just getting enough to survive can feel like torture and make you wonder if it's worth it.

They see that the grace and beauty you possess most often brings you nothing but scorn and misery and the feeling that you'll never be understood or belong.

They know all this and more, and they know that sometimes it can make you hate, and that hate feels more satisfying for that instance than anything love can bring.

But that hate burns bright and quickly, and it leaves you with nothing, and more often than not takes the one thing you always could count on: yourself.

But love. Love sustains. Love grows. Love gives you strength, and courage, and love will always show you the way back home if you let it.

The stars want to remind you that you know where home is, if you only take the time to look, and love will be waiting there for you.

Always.

11/22/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that everything bad in your life is a result of fear.

Everything.

They want you to do something about that.

Really, do something about that and let go of the foolish notion of control and start living, because that's all there is to it.

If not, fear becomes inaction, it becomes regret, it becomes shame, it becomes guilt, it becomes hatred. It becomes everything you have tried to avoid.

The stars want you to be fearless and free and to show yourself and the world how amazing you really are.

11/21/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to talk to you about hatred. There are always going to be some things in life that you hate, but when you find yourself hating a group of people, that's when there's a problem.

Hate is a very strong word, but it is a valid emotion and it is real and it does apply in very select circumstances. If you hate the things Kanye West says or does, that's one thing, if you hate all rappers or black people or culture based on that, then you're getting into dangerous territory.

Worse yet, people will tend to hate a certain race or religion or social status based on lies and misconceptions. When you get to that point, hate clouds your judgment and ends up hurting you in the end. You make bad choices, you leave your mind open to manipulation by others that have their own agenda.

Making a choice based on hatred is never good for anyone. And hatred is so insidious that many times people don't even realize that it is in fact hatred they are expressing. They have truly lost their way because hate has blinded them.

Hate is simply fear and insecurity and jealousy in yet another guise. It will take up more and more of your energy and time, and it will make you more unhappy everyday. It will happen in small increments and you won't even notice until one day you will wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and you will see what all people consumed by hatred have seen eventually.

The thing you truly hate is yourself.

The stars don't want to see that happen to you. They know we were not put here to hate, and they know that you know it too. So remember that where there is a chance to hate, there is always an equal chance to love.

Choose wisely, or someday you will forget that you even have a choice.

11/16/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want you to know that often times being kind brings no reward.  Many times our kindness and understanding is repaid by scorn, or by people taking advantage of it.  Worse yet, sometimes it is met with complete apathy, and the other person doesn’t even recognize it or appreciate it in the least.

It hurts.  It hurts in a way that makes you question who you are and why you are even trying.  It makes you feel foolish sometimes, other times it makes you feel used and inconsequential.  There is nothing worse than when you offer someone the world and they shrug it off like it doesn’t even matter.

Most people in the world don’t or can’t appreciate the things they have.  That is not your shortcoming, it is theirs, and all too often the kind people get trampled down and marginalized to the point where cynicism takes hold and the kindness seeps away.

The stars see that unless you are born a psychopath, that all people start out kind.  Then the world beats it out of them.  Every betrayal takes its toll, every casual dismissal chips away at the part of us that cares about others.  All the horrors that are visited upon us tear a little piece of us off, to fly away in the wind into the darkness, lost forever.

And one day even the best of us stop being kind.  We get selfish, closed off, anything to protect ourselves from the crushing, glacial weight of all the indifference and selfishness of the people that nonchalantly threw away everything we offered.

The stars want you to know that it is not your fault for being kind.  You are not to blame.  Your kindness is one of the most wonderful and amazing things that human beings are capable of.  To be kind, over and over, unflinchingly, when you know that there is a very good chance that your kindness will only bring you pain, is close to whatever Godliness is supposed to be.  

The stars see your kindness.

The stars know how wonderful you are.

The stars understand that you possess a knowledge greater than all the evil and misery and indifference of the universe can ever amass.

The world needs you, now more than ever, so never stop being kind.  

The stars realize that kindness may be the only thing that saves our wretched souls, that someday pulls us up out of the dark and gives all of us a chance to be as glorious as we are  supposed to be.  

The stars implore you, for the sake of all of us, never stop being kind.  

11/15/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to know that love is supposed to be hard sometimes. They're not talking about romantic love, although that is too.

If you devote your life to love rather than hate, you are in for some tough times. People seem to take the offer of unconditional love as a dare.

You don't have to specifically love your enemies.  If there is someone that stands for everything you are against, and they are reprehensible and irredeemable, well you should fight them with all you have.

But is anyone totally irredeemable? That might be a discussion for another day, but if someone is capable of redemption, it is safe to say that you won't save anyone's soul with hate.

There are people that are not your enemy per se, but they will tax you and vex you and they will push you to the edge with their rhetoric and deeds. No one is saying you have to love them, but if they have any good qualities that go along with the bad, maybe you should.

Maybe giving up on people at the drop of the hat is not good for anyone. Certainly it is not going to help the people you write off. Your hatred will just make them feel that they are justified in their lousy behavior. It will make them feel that no one does care about them or whether or not they sink or swim.

All you will do is reinforce their insecurities and low self esteem, and signal to them that they are as bad as they feel about themselves. That will not give them any incentive to better themselves and they will continue in their downward spiral.

“So what?” you might find yourself saying, “they deserve whatever misery they find. It serves them right.”

Well, maybe they don't deserve all that misery. Perhaps they have had some bad breaks. Maybe they are less fortunate than you, and never had anyone show them love. Or maybe the only person that ever did make them feel loved is gone. They might be reeling, and a little kindness might make all the difference in the world. You don't know.

The point the stars want to make is that hating these people rather than loving them is never going to make the world a better place. Hating them is never going to help them, so in hating people that disagree with you, you are making your own life worse.

You are ensuring that these people never see your point of view. You are ensuring that these people never stop fighting against you to make the world into a place that frustrates and infuriates you.

Your hate is only coming back to you multiplied, and at that point it is not your “enemies” that are causing your misery, it is you.

So yes, the stars realize that love is hard.  Loving in the face of hatred, especially self hatred, is exhausting sometimes. Showing love when love is the farthest thing from your mind can be the hardest thing you might ever have to do.

So yes, love is so, so hard sometimes.

The stars also want to remind you that everything worthwhile usually is.