12/27/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:
The stars want to remind you that most of the things that cause you pain are personal. If you expect everyone to simply understand what you are going through, you will be disappointed most of the time.
Sometimes people being sympathetic doesn't seem like enough. That's why we tend to dwell on things longer than we should. That's why we often seem to wallow in our own misery and bludgeon others with our situation. We just can't accept that they can't feel exactly what we are feeling in the same level.
Most likely, they aren't going to, no matter what angle you come at it from. Repeating and reliving your trauma and heartbreak isn't going to get you much more in the way of sympathy or answers. We are unrealistic in the amount of closure and pampering we are going to receive.
There comes a time, sometimes quickly, sometimes a little longer, when we have to let go. Letting go is not something that comes natural. Our brain is hardwired to keep trying the same thing over and over. That's evolution at work. On a base level, nature wants us to try whatever we're doing over and over so we succeed or fall in the quickest amount of time, so it knows whether or not our specific traits get passed on. It doesn't recognize good or bad behavior, it just impels us to give in to whatever compulsion we have and see what happens.
The stars want you to know that system might be the most efficient and brutal tool for survival of a species, but it's no way to live your life. If you're going to be happy and well adjusted, you're just going to have to accept that it will take work and willpower.
That means that you are just going to have to trust that it will be okay, and that complete and thorough explanations are not coming your way. You are not going to get absolute closure most of the time, some of that closure is going to be on you.
That also means that you're going to have to come to terms that whether or not the people who care about you can completely wrap their heads around your personal and unique torment, you should just thank your lucky stars that they take the time to care at all. Your disappointment should in reality be sincere and utter gratitude that someone loves you enough to try.