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Doing things that are new and different are an essential part of life. Learning new things, for a job, a hobby, or just the curiosity of it, is always tricky at first. The secret is to keep with it, and give your brain some time to pick up on what you're doing. Then that amazing chunk of gray matter that encompasses everything you are will take over.
The weird thing is, while it's not your brain that's usually the problem when it comes to mastering new talents or information, it's totally your brain that's the problem. Your brain can handle the nuts and bolts part of the operation just fine, but it will also try to get you to give up.
Your brain always wants to go the route of least resistance. Your fear or insecurity or ego will very often tell you to give up, and mask the reason why. Your brain won't tell you you're giving up because you're afraid, it will give you a million excuses about how you don't really want the hassle of the extra responsibilities that come with a promotion. It shouldn't matter if you go to the gym because why would you want to attract someone who only cares about your physical appearance? There's no reason to learn to ski, you tried it once, and skiing is stupid, and people who ski are jerks.
There are always reasons to give up, and they are usually just the fear of not being able to do it, or looking foolish in the process masquerading as sensible excuses.
So we quit.
Then your brain does an even more insidious thing. Eventually, it makes you feel shame and guilt and regret because you gave up. It convinced you that giving up was the right thing to do, then it chastises you for doing what it told you. Then, it throws it in your face the next time you want to try something new. Living with your brain is like being in a dysfunctional and abusive relationship at times.
The stars want you to know that your brain is capable of doing most of the things you want to do. Look at everything it has accomplished so far. Those things haven't always been easy, but you did them. So make your brain stay the course. Don't let it talk you out of something you want simply because of some vague and indefinable fear.
You are capable of so many great and wonderful things. So go do them.
Doing things that are new and different are an essential part of life. Learning new things, for a job, a hobby, or just the curiosity of it, is always tricky at first. The secret is to keep with it, and give your brain some time to pick up on what you're doing. Then that amazing chunk of gray matter that encompasses everything you are will take over.
The weird thing is, while it's not your brain that's usually the problem when it comes to mastering new talents or information, it's totally your brain that's the problem. Your brain can handle the nuts and bolts part of the operation just fine, but it will also try to get you to give up.
Your brain always wants to go the route of least resistance. Your fear or insecurity or ego will very often tell you to give up, and mask the reason why. Your brain won't tell you you're giving up because you're afraid, it will give you a million excuses about how you don't really want the hassle of the extra responsibilities that come with a promotion. It shouldn't matter if you go to the gym because why would you want to attract someone who only cares about your physical appearance? There's no reason to learn to ski, you tried it once, and skiing is stupid, and people who ski are jerks.
There are always reasons to give up, and they are usually just the fear of not being able to do it, or looking foolish in the process masquerading as sensible excuses.
So we quit.
Then your brain does an even more insidious thing. Eventually, it makes you feel shame and guilt and regret because you gave up. It convinced you that giving up was the right thing to do, then it chastises you for doing what it told you. Then, it throws it in your face the next time you want to try something new. Living with your brain is like being in a dysfunctional and abusive relationship at times.
The stars want you to know that your brain is capable of doing most of the things you want to do. Look at everything it has accomplished so far. Those things haven't always been easy, but you did them. So make your brain stay the course. Don't let it talk you out of something you want simply because of some vague and indefinable fear.
You are capable of so many great and wonderful things. So go do them.
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