6/19/18

Today's Horoscope

All signs:
When you talk about yourself, don't list negatives. So many times when people praise us, we automatically rattle off a bunch of reasons why we aren’t so wonderful. We have been taught to be humble, but we take it much too far. Maybe we are afraid of people’s expectations. Maybe we feel that we don’t deserve praise, because somewhere along the line someone else made us feel like we are bad. Maybe we just don’t know how to take a compliment.
We should be celebrating the things about us that we like. We should be selling ourselves on our good points, not talking others out of liking us. We should feel pride when people find something wonderful and virtuous about us. So many other people seem to want to tear us down. In fact, we sometimes dismiss the good things people tell us because in the past people have attacked us for the same qualities they once praised us for.
None of that is on you. That is on other people, who were either lashing out to be cruel, or just too confused to know what they want or hurt because they couldn’t control you. In the end, it makes us afraid or unwilling to accept it when someone finds something about us that they love.
The stars recommend you fix that. Learn how to take a compliment graciously, without fear and trepidation. If you find yourself saying or thinking of a rebuttal, make note of the things you list that in your mind proves that you are not as good a person as someone thinks you are. Then examine that list, and figure out which of the reasons are real, and which are things that people have used to try to manipulate you. Work on the ones that you really need to change, and let go of the ones that are just emotional baggage from some ghost from your past.
Instead of dismissing that wonderful person someone thinks you are, strive to actually be that person. Everyone will be better off for it; you, most of all.