9/11/18

Today's Horoscope

All signs:
Every loss leaves a hole, and every hole has a shape. When we suffer the loss of someone from our lives, we first have to deal with the pain and heartbreak, and just getting through each day. That pain varies in its intensity and length depending on who it was and what they meant to you, obviously. The stars here are talking about the big ones.
Your first goal is just to survive it. It might be some time before you can actually start to fully function again. Eventually, you learn to go on with your life, if only on a basic and barely functional level at first.
That's when you start to notice the shape of the hole that now occupies your life. Naturally, you start to look for things that can fill that hole, but when you lose something special, it is very hard to find something else that will fit exactly in that hole. The hole is unique and complex, and we end up trying to find the exact thing we lost, but that can't happen.
We know that, but it doesn't stop us from trying. We discard the people and things that come along and don't fit in the space provided. We shouldn't be so frivolous, but we can't help it. We know what we lost, and we just can't accept anything less.
Time has a way of eroding that hole, though. The days and months and years start to wear away the edges, and the shape starts to become more nondescript. One day, you are left with a void in your life that is smoother; it's bigger, but it's more accepting. That's when you can start to let others in, and you find out that while no one and nothing can exactly replace what you have lost, they can bring their own merits and joy to your life.
Grief is a process, it is necessary, and it is going to take time. It is not eternal, no matter what the poets and the songwriters say. You can keep your memories and carry them with you until the day you die, but eventually the pain will subside enough that you won't even notice it most days.
The stars know that we are all on the journey to that place for most of our lives. We cling tightly to the people we have lost, afraid to lose them forever, or ashamed to move on, like it will somehow diminish them. The thing the stars want you to know is that the hole they left in your life can always be filled again. It WILL be filled again, and if you don't watch what falls into it, you might find that your life has filled with bad and destructive things.
If anything, tend to the holes others have left in your lives fastidiously. The people who left them wouldn't want you to suffer any more than you have to, so you owe it to them to live well.