11/29/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to realize that to live in this world, you need to make some allowances for other people. Their cultures, their beliefs, their sense of humor and morality, their ideas of taste and sophistication, a bunch of little variables that make them who they are.

We get into trouble when we start making allowances for damaged, broken people and their destructive behavior. We end up trying to overlook serious problems, not just minor character flaws. Before you know it, you end up shackled to an abuser, or an addict, or some other type of sociopath. Someone so lost and twisted that they are nowhere near ready for a relationship with other human beings.

When someone is that damaged, you can't save them unless they want to save themselves. You might think it inconceivable that they want to live that way, hurting themselves and everyone around them, living in torment; but a strange corrupted part of them want exactly that. Some of them are incapable of seeing it at all.  They need to decide they don't want to live that way, and many of them never figure that out.

That's not to say you shouldn't try to help people, but you shouldn't fall in love with them. If you end up with a partner that is damaged and living a life full of holes, you are simply filling your own life with damage and soon you will have all kinds of holes of your own.

11/28/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

Some of us are very good at helping others. Some people can put others on their backs, and carry them when they need to. Many of us can find strength and resolve we never knew we possessed when our children or family members or any loved ones are in crisis.

Yet so many of us struggle at times to do the simplest things for ourselves. We procrastinate, we make excuses, we ignore the things we need to make us happy. But why?

Why is it we won't give up and we won't back down when it comes to helping others, but we constantly let ourselves down again and again? Sometimes we give our all to people that only hurt us or take advantage of us, while treating ourselves so poorly.

The stars can't tell you why that is. There are so many reasons that we are harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. There is guilt and sadness and trauma and anger and so much self hatred at times, and usually for no reason or fault of our own.

Perhaps we think we can redeem our crimes and broken hearts by selflessly giving only to others, but if you aren't being kind to yourself in the process you will never be satisfied.

The stars advise you to help yourself first, then you can really help others work towards the light you've already found, because you'll already know the way.

11/27/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

Some days there are no grand answers or a poetic turn to inspire you. Sometimes you have to straighten your back, find some resolve, and just put one foot in front of the other and keep moving.

Forcing yourself to grind through the day when it seems everything in the universe is telling you to quit takes a monumental effort, the stars know this. They are proud of all of us when we do it, because it's so much easier to lay down and give up.

They also know that there will be inspiration and poetry again soon enough to buoy you up, and you may be surprised to find that it just might come from within yourself.

11/26/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that most of the things you waste your time and energy hating or being angry about aren't worth it. In fact, anger and hatred themselves are useless reactions most of the time.

They have their place, and are sometimes justified, but never in abstract or general. Specific things can provoke anger, and certain people can earn your hatred, but it's almost always an over reaction. All it will accomplish is making your life and everyone around you miserable.

So instead of wasting a lot of time and energy and misery being mad about something when your anger won't solve anything, try looking for a way to make things better. Rather than hate someone for some small infraction, try to understand why they felt or acted some way and make your peace with it. If you hate something, try to change it rather than let it make you act like someone you're not.

If something or someone continually upsets you, walk away. Why be caught in an antagonistic relationship and waste your life that way?

The stars know that it's not realistic to react to everything in your life with love and patience and a calm demeanor, but in most cases it's a lot easier than you think. And that will make things a lot easier on everyone, including yourself.

11/25/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

People sometimes develop a negative attitude towards a group of people, or a gender, or a culture. They look for any example, no matter how small, and crow about how it proves their point. They love to paint with a broad brush because they have their own agenda based on hate or insecurity or envy.

While there is nothing wrong with pointing out the faults or misdeeds of others at times, it is unhealthy to have tunnel vision and only focus on what we perceive as bad behavior. That is how we are tricked into believing lies and propaganda that plays to our fears.

The stars think that instead of only searching for examples that support our negative connotations, we should also look for things that refute them. That is where understanding comes from. That is how we grow, and learn tolerance and acceptance rather than blind hate.

11/23/17 Thanksgiving

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that no matter how bad it is, if you take a moment to look, there's still always so much to be thankful for.

The stars want you to keep sight of that fact, and to be thankful.

11/22/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to you to have faith. Some of us have faith in an all knowing entity, a God or belief system that may defy logic. Some of us believe in a reason and order to the universe, whether or not evidence exists to prove it. That is their right, but that's not the kind of faith the stars are talking about.

We all have faith in a million little things. We have faith that the things we take for granted are always going to be. We have faith that the government and society is going to still be in place when we wake up in the morning. We have faith that our families and loved ones are relatively safe and the structure in our lives we hold dear is constant. We have faith that the earth won't crumble beneath our feet and the ocean won't wash over us and the sky won't crack open in wholesale destruction, and if it does, there will be help to rebuild. Many people of the world don't live with that reassurance.

We have faith that our jobs and our wealth and our belongings are secure. We have faith that there will always be something to do, or watch, or listen to, or read, something to entertain us and occupy our time. We count on authority figures and soldiers to defend us, our legal systems to be just. We believe that others will do their part to keep the whole thing going.

We also have faith in the people we love. We expect our parents to protect and guide us, our friends to support us, and our partners to love us. We believe in the promises people make, and the declarations of love and forever.

The stars know that many times that faith is tested or shattered. They know that others cannot always live up to their promises. They know that we can't either, and we betray ourselves along with the people that depend on us. They know that one day you might wake up to find the person you counted on is gone forever in the random lottery that is life and death.

You might find that the one person you always thought was true and real and you could always count on is gone, whether it's cruel fate or just cruelty, and you're alone again.

That's where true faith comes in. When everything you had is now tested, when your world is shattered and you find yourself at square one, at rock bottom. These are the moments when we tell ourselves all hope is gone and nothing matters, that it will never be good, and you'll never allow yourself to be hurt again.

The stars know that this is the point where you have to work and strive to have hope, to believe that you can try it all over one more time. You need faith that all people aren't like the ones that let you down. That all the best things in life aren't tainted. That there is a chance at happiness, and that your love and trust will be rewarded.

You have to have faith that if you put the effort in, it will be good again.