Today’s Horoscope
All Signs:
The stars want to give you some really helpful advice today. In every relationship there someone has more control than the other. In many good relationships control is nearly equal, and it switches back and forth between the people in it. In a lot of your dealings with people it’s not usually a huge issue, although if you feel some vague dissatisfaction with someone it’s usually because they are calling all the shots, as minor as most of them might be. I’m not just talking about romantic relationships either, I’m talking any relationship. Friends, family, casual acquaintance, even between you and the guy at the drive thru.
You should start taking a moment to think about who has the upper hand in all of your goings on with anyone you interact with. It would certainly come in handy if you are house or car shopping. Or any shopping really, whenever it involves a major purchase and you have to talk to someone trying to sell you something. Deal making is all about having the upper hand, and manipulating you and gaining that upper hand is the main trait that makes a salesperson a salesperson. What you have to remember in these situations is that they need to sell you something to put food on their table, you can always just go to the car dealership down the street.
So many of us just give in because we tell ourselves that we don’t want to deal with the hassle, or we weren’t going to save any money anyway, but that’s really just us feeling cowed and not wanting to speak up. So we have the upper hand and we surrender it willingly without a fight.
Now think about your personal relationships. Are you the one always giving in? Are you the one in the discussion that feels like you somehow lost a negotiation and are left unsatisfied when all is said and done? Do you go in believing one thing and wind up doubting what you knew was true only ten minutes ago? Are you the one that was wronged, but now you find yourself apologizing?
If so, chances are you’re being dominated and manipulated and you are letting it happen.
This is really bad if it is an abusive relationship or a relationship that is no good for you. Many times we get mad and we swear we are done with whichever person is doing it. Then they always find some reason to call you, and you end up right back where you started.
If they are calling you, you are in the driver’s seat. They want you, and you don’t need to let them back into your life just because they reached out. The moment you do, control goes right back to them.
I know, it sucks that you even have to think about it at all. It sucks that people out there are playing these games, and you have to deal with it. What you have to realize is that many of these toxic people are really good at it. There is a part of their brain that is exceptional at spotting and exploiting weaknesses, and they enjoy it. Every time they cajole or bully and trick you into doing something that benefits them and hurts you they get a little kick of endorphins that makes them want to do it again and again. They live their lives like hustlers, looking for their next mark so they can get a rush again.
Sadly, you have to think like they do to avoid having them stimey you and mess up your life. While it is frustrating and a nuisance, it is something you should really take the time to look into because it will save you a whole lot of trouble later on. Know your enemy.
The stars just want you to be happy, and only you can make that happen. They care about your well being, and they don’t care if you get to call the shots and decide your own plans, in fact, they encourage it. They do not have to be in control, they do not fear letting you get what you want now and then You’re never going to know what you want and how to decide if you never get to make your own decisions freely and fairly. So the stars will be right where they always are, telling you to trust and assert yourself, and they are always on your side.
Unlike some of the people in your life you are thinking about right now ...
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