9/12/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to make sure the people you let into your life and give yourself to deserve it.

Too often we are lonely, or insecure, or just need to feel loved, so we accept people into our lives that haven't earned it. We overlook their faults, and even their wholly different philosophies on life, and just plunge in anyway.

Soon we start to lose who we are, and we let some very unscrupulous and predatory people influence and control us. We make excuses because we want to love them or be their friends, or we have just grown accustomed to them being around, and we are afraid of losing something we have gotten used to.

Your friends or lovers should support you when you're doing well and warn you when you're not. They should love you and be excited to be with you and want to share their life. All the joy, all the sorrow, and everything in between, be it your triumphs or just some little thing that reminds them of you.

They should always want the best for you, and treating you badly or putting you down, or not being there when you need them is unacceptable. Always taking and never giving is something too many people get used to and accept on a regular basis. We tell ourselves we are being strong, or low maintenance, or loving someone despite their shortcomings, but that's not the way it should be. We are making excuses to justify what we are giving up.

The stars want all of us to get the happiness we deserve, and that's our responsibility. When we let people into our lives that take that happiness from us, we are sabotaging ourselves. Always be true to yourself and what you know to be right, and find people that know it too, and love you for who you are. When you have people that really know you and love you for it, you will always be ahead of the game.

That way you know that if you ever get lost, they are there to call you back home.

9/11/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that it's okay to be selfish at times. The word selfish carries a lot of negative connotations, and that's understandable, but sometimes it is necessary.

At some point in your life, you are going to have to come to terms with the fact that you can’t save everyone.  You can’t do the hard stuff for other people all the time, it takes away from your life and it robs them of important growth and lessons.  At some point, you are enabling, not helping.

The stars aren’t saying that you shouldn’t help people that need it.  You should be encouraging and supportive, you should lend a hand, or money, or whatever you can afford when you can.  You shouldn’t solve everyone’s problems for them though, you should help them solve their own problems.  

If you constantly take everything on yourself, even the most well meaning people can come to expect you to bail them out every time, or overlook some inconsiderate or damaging behavior.  Then it is on you as much as it is on them.  If there is no reason for someone to grow or change, why would they?

You are also hurting yourself.  You can get into a situation where you are living your life for others and not getting anything you want out of it. We tend to fall into one of two roles:  Giver or taker.  Give too much, and you have nothing left for yourself, take  too much and you become dependant and stifle your own growth.

So when the stars tell you to be selfish, they don’t mean abandon anyone that needs you. They aren’t telling you ignore the plight of the poor or tragedy stricken.  They don’t want you to turn your back on your friends and loved ones.  

They just want you to remember not to give away more than you can afford to lose.  They want you to help others, but not to the extent that your own happiness suffers.  They want you to understand that if you give everything you have to someone that squanders it, then both of you will have nothing, and then you can’t help anyone at all. That includes yourself.

9/8/17 Bonus!

Today's Horoscope Friday Bonus!

All signs:

The stars want you to know that they see everything, and even though things look bad sometimes, there is still so much more good that they see.

It's all around you too, if you want to see it, so this weekend when you're out and about, try to retrain yourself to notice all the good around you. Because it's there, it's always there.

And if you can't get your mind to stop focusing on all the bad things happening right now, take solace that even those horrible things serve to bring out the best in us, so make sure you notice that as well.

9/8/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to talk about the words “I'm sorry”. They are powerful words, important words, and sometimes overused words.

You should not let your ego or insecurities get on the way of admitting when you are wrong. It can be hard to apologize, especially facing someone that you've wronged, but it is essential. It can bring you peace as well as the person you are apologizing to, giving both of you much needed closure.

There are many people that are damaged by the actions of others, and end up in a state of arrested development, unable to cope because they never got an apology or admission of guilt by the one person they need it from most.

When you apologize, you should be sincere. Too many people simply say the words without giving any thought to what they are apologizing for, as they turn around and simply do it again. These people don't care that they hurt you, and whether it's because they are damaged or just jerks, you shouldn't let them into a position where they can hurt you at all.

The stars want you to understand that just as important as the apology is forgiveness. If someone is sincerely remorseful about what they did, and you can find it within yourself to forgive them, you should. For both your sakes. There are some things that people might find unforgivable, but keep in mind that there are people that have even forgiven the person that murdered their children, so anything is possible.

Most people are not capable of forgiving something like that, and that's understandable. You should learn to forgive whatever you can though, because forgiving means letting go, and moving forward, and releasing yourself from a lot of pain and obsessive misery. Most importantly, forgive yourself, because once the person that hurt you is done and gone, we often continue to punish ourselves.

The stars also want to point out that there are some people that apologize automatically for things that need no apology. They just say it constantly because they are afraid of offending or upsetting anyone, and you should feel bad for them and try to put them at ease. Many times they do this because they have been abused or terrorized by someone in the past. There was no rhyme or reason to the abuse because the abusers were sadistic and would use any excuse to lash out, so they apologize for everything. Many times they are unconscious that they are doing it.

They are living in a type of prison, stunted and afraid, and they are the people that need an apology most of all, but are probably never going to get it. They will live out their days wondering why someone they loved would do that to them, never getting closure, never getting an answer. Never hearing the words “I'm sorry” from the person they need to hear it from most.

9/7/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that there is still plenty of magic left in the world. Sometimes it seems like life is a grind, and that there's nothing new or exciting or even good anymore. That's never the case.

Most of the time when we feel this way, we are in a bad state of mind overall. We are overworked, or brokenhearted and lonely, or we're unhappy with the state of the world. Maybe we just hit a bad stretch of luck, or we lose someone close, or we're just in a rut. We tend to retreat into ourselves, or build walls when we have to deal with things like that.

That's human nature, that's how we feel safe and like we have some control, but it's not good to stay there for long. Soon, we won't be able to see any magic in the world because while closing ourselves off from the bad, we also keep out the good.

Magic doesn't just show up when you need it, like in some fairytale or movie, most of the time you have to search for it. It's usually not a long search either, you just need to pick yourself up and get out there. The thing about magic is that it's hard to define, so most often we don't even know what we're looking for. Our idea of magic is hardly ever realistic, so we should not go looking for a specific sign or occurrence. One of the biggest aspects of magic is surprise and wonder, and how are you going to get that if you spend your life looking for something you've already envisioned in your head?

The secret to finding magic is to experience as many things as you can, and there are endless things out there to experience. Travel, try new things, even if it's just shopping at a different store or eating at a new restaurant. There are books, movies, music, art, a million things you haven't exposed yourself to. Science, history, museums; classes you can take that might open your eyes on a whole new way to see the world. There are people out there that can inspire and astound you, and they live right in your hometown. No matter who you are, you have only met a tiny, minuscule fraction of a percentage point of the people in this world. And if you have decided that most of them are not worth your time, perhaps it is because you are traveling in the same circles you have been your whole life. Maybe you are closing yourself off from others because you are insecure, and don't think you'll fit in with other people that you perceive as smarter, or more refined or successful, or more talented in a certain area than you.

That's just fear holding you back. You're never going to know who you are or where you belong until you experience as much as you can. By doing more and getting out there, you will find wonder and stumble on magic everywhere.

The stars want you to know that magic is all around you, just waiting for your to discover it. It's in nature, in people, in art, in many places you might never think to look. The more you do, the more you'll find, and in doing so you might just create your own magic along the way.

Because every single one of us is magic, whether we can see it or not. We're just waiting to discover it and be astounded along with everyone else.

9/6/17

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to remind you that the world is big enough that there is more than plenty to go around.  We tend to get caught up in our competitive nature at times, where we like the fact that we have more than others, or that we think we are entitled to more because of social standing, race, or birthright.  That’s just ego and insecurity.

We also sometimes get it in our head that if someone else gets something, we are somehow going to get less.  That is seldom the case, and even if it is, so what?  Like the petty child that wants a toy just because another child has it at the moment, we can become envious and belligerent, greedy and selfish.

There is no reason for that behavior at all.  You shouldn’t define yourself by your possessions.  You shouldn’t have your self worth tied to how much someone else has over you.  You certainly shouldn’t hoard your good fortune and lord it over others that aren’t as fortunate.

Share your success if you can, help others achieve their own goals, and if you’re lucky enough to have plenty, help those who are in need.  People are intrinsically good, and when our ego and fear push us to be any other way, it creates conflict inside of us. Somewhere, deep inside, we always know how we are acting when we go against our better natures. We can never be truly happy that way, so in a sense you are punishing everyone. At a time when we should all be striving towards self purification and examining our actions, we often are at odds against others and ourselves, spiteful and ungracious.  

Billions of years ago, the stars sacrificed themselves and spread the building blocks of the universe throughout the cosmos.  They scattered everything they were so that we could be here, along with all the wonders our world possesses.  They did not do that so we could hoard treasure and hobble our fellow man.  

The stars can’t understand why, when they gave us so much more than we could ever want for, it still isn’t enough.  Maybe it’s because the problem isn’t that there’s not enough in the world, maybe we are missing something inside.

The stars implore us to find it, before it’s too late, because there is always another star set to scatter us to the cosmic wind again.

9/5/17

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars know that we all have to deal with tragedy sometimes.  No one can avoid it, whether in your immediate lives or a community or nationwide scale. It is part of being alive, and it is something you will have to cope with, or it can consume you.

The thing about tragedy is, you never really get over it, you get past it.  You heal, you learn to live with it, but it has changed you and it will stay with you in some form or another for the rest of your life.  

The stars want you to understand that you have a say in how it affects your life moving forward.  Not at first, first you are awash in pain and grief and loss.  That can last minutes or years, depending on the situation.  Then, you will move to a point where it is up to you to decide how much it is going to take from you, how much it will dictate your actions and feelings from that moment on.  How much control it has.

You can wallow for the rest of your life, you can use it as an excuse for your self-destructive behavior, or your bad attitude, or the way you treat others.  You can let it consume you and drag you down, to fester and rot you away from the inside.  You can find guilt and blame where there is none, and amplify any that might be justifiable.  Redemption is always at hand if you strive for it.

Or you could take what lessons are available from it, learn from them, and refuse to let it have dominion over you.  You can concentrate on the good, least of which is that you are lucky to be alive, and lucky to live in a world of infinite chances and opportunities rather than fixate on the one that might not be available to you anymore.   You could help others going through the same thing, and make it easier on them.  Perhaps you could help change regulations or society’s views regarding what you went through so it won’t happen to anyone else.  You could celebrate the life of someone you lost, and take the positives from their existence rather than punish the world because of their demise, and live the way anyone that loved you would want you to live.  

The stars need you to know that you can shape your life, and in turn your tragedies, into what you want it to be.   You can’t always control what happened to you, but you can control how it affects you, and what it turns you into.

You can still be happy, after all this.