10/6/17

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want you to remember not to tie your self-worth to the opinions of other.  Particularly  not others that don’t care about your welfare.  

It’s unfortunate, but you have to examine everyone you let into your life, because there are a lot of predators out there.  Most of them are hard to spot, especially because most of them don’t even know that they are predators.  Some we feel sorry for, or we assume that they have a good heart, but those are some of the worst.  They play on your sympathy, and they sap all your energy and leave you questioning whether or not you are the bad guy somehow when all you did was try to help.

Some are so damaged themselves that they see love and kindness as weaknesses, and they can make you wonder if you’re an idiot for caring.   They make you feel like it is your own fault somehow that they took advantage of you.  These people are lost and broken, and their opinions are highly suspect.

Then there are those that are just looking to take advantage of you, and are only out for themselves.  They take everything they can, and bleed you dry, and they do it by tearing you down and making you feel worthless.

Well, the stars are here to tell you that you are most definitely not worthless.  In fact, if someone can take advantage of your good nature, that probably means you are a very caring and kind human being, and  that’s something to celebrate.

Be who you are unashamedly, and take pride in it.  Don’t let others dictate how you should feel about you.  Odds are, some of the things you love about yourself are things most people don’t understand, so how are they in any position to judge you?  The things that make you an individual are sometimes the things that fill you with self doubt, when they are the things that should make you soar. Find people that realize what makes you special and loves you all the more for it.  Find people who encourage your strengths, not people that are jealous of them.

We should all have a few close and trusted people in our lives that will warn us if we are messing up, but for the most part these people will want you to be who you are and love you all the more fiercely for it.

The stars also want to remind you that the person that should most love you and want you to be you is in fact you, so if that’s not the case, get to work and be your own cheering section.  

10/5/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that life is not a TV show or a movie. You know that, but sometimes our brains can't tell the difference.

Movies and TV shows are scripted, full of set ups and contrived circumstances to play on your emotions. They are full of grand gestures and amazing incidents happening at the exact moment they need to. In the case of TV shows, on a weekly basis.

Now, it's not like those moments don't exist in real life, they do sometimes. Just not as often as our brains see them happen in an alternate reality we force them to watch. Soon your brain starts to make you question why you aren't getting those same endorphin jolts from your everyday life and the people in it.

You're not going to, not in the same way with the same regularity. So you can find yourself judging people, and life in general, in an unfair comparison.

The stars want to remind you that the things you get in real life may not be as slick and precisely designed to give you more bang for the buck, but they are usually more impressive.

The things you see on the screen are the result of an awful lot of people and technology combining to do one small thing. The people in your life are grinding it out everyday, dealing with all the things we all have to grapple with. If someone in your life manages to take the time and effort to simply let you know that you're loved, that's a huge deal. And the way they do that is not always readily apparent, because no one did market research and wrote and revised a script for them and did their makeup and shot them from the right angle while they do it.

People show their love and support in different ways, and sometimes what seems like a disappointment to you was a huge effort on their part. They just didn't have a crew of people helping them do it. They don't know what the rest of your particular movie has been like before they got on camera.

So take a little time to notice when the people in your life are there for you, and cut them some slack of they at least try to make your day a little bit better.

Reality may not be as perfect as a TV show or movie, but it's real, and that counts for a lot more.

10/4/17

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to take a moment to know how you’re doing.  Anything you need to talk about? Would you like someone to just listen for a moment while you say the things out loud that hurt or scare or worry you?  Someone to just be there when you have to face what you already know?

Because that’s important.  We  should all be there for each other, to listen, to support, to just comfort others while they take another step towards figuring it out.  One of the first steps to changing the things in your life that need changing, or accepting the things you can’t, is simply acknowledging them. It takes their power away, and lets you get a grip on them.  Sure, you can do it alone, but it’s much easier to go back to old habits right away if you feel no one is on your side.

People do better together than alone, no matter what our brains try to tell us.  We are all filled with secrets, afraid that no one else could possibly understand the things that make us terrible. Chances are, you’re not the only one that feels whatever way you’re feeling, but if we don’t vocalize them we will never know.

So be there for the people in your life.  Ask them how they are.  Ask them about their lives, about how they are coping or how they aren’t.  Ask them about the good things too.  Leave it to  them to tell you what they need to talk about, and just listen.  You will both be better for it.

Bad things seem less overwhelming if we share our burdens, and good things seem sweeter when we share our joys.

So the stars want you to know, if no one else is around right now, you can talk to them.  They will listen without judging, without making you feel dirty or strange.  They will listen because they love you, and they don’t want you to carry your burdens by yourself.

We are all part of humanity, and we are never better being truly alone.

10/3/17 Day After Something Horrible Edition

Today's Horoscope, day after something horrible edition

All signs:

The stars know we are all reeling, yet again. A new day, even so closely following a tragedy, is often enough time for us to start coping.

That doesn't mean we care any less, it doesn't mean we are forgetting about the victims. Adaptability is our strength, and everyone adapts differently, in their own time. Don’t chastise people just because they handle pain differently than you do.  Don’t attack people because they are ready to have a discussion, even if you are not there yet.

Some people turn to faith, some to humor, and some occasionally act out badly, but try to have some understanding and some patience and some tolerance. We all should get a grace period.

These are difficult times, and if the stars can give you any advice, it is too try stay positive in your reactions. Don't deepen the divide if you can help it. It is a natural reaction to lash out in frustration, but that doesn't mean it is the best way to handle things. You end up hurting others, and hurting your own cause most of the time.

Don't use it as an excuse to throw up your hands and give in to depression, or turn to drugs or alcohol or any other addictions. Again, that's just causing more pain down the road.  Please do not let it take you to a place where you end up harming yourself.  Remember that there are so many more good things in the world if you just take the time to consciously look for them.  Talk to someone if you are having trouble seeing them.  What do you have to lose?

Instead, the stars think you should channel the pain and anger and any other emotion you are feeling into positive pursuits.  Trying to make the world better is always the best way to start, and you can do that any number of ways.  Donating, volunteering, helping anyone you know that might be having trouble coming to grips with what happened.   There is always something constructive you can do that won’t take any more energy than tearing down would, so everyone is better off if you go in that direction, especially yourself.

On top of everything, keep in mind that you don’t always get every single thing your way in life.  We need to remember to compromise if we want things to change.  The stars have noticed that somehow we have all gotten to a place where we only see one solution and we close our minds to anything else.   That is not how the world works, that is not how government works, that is not how any healthy relationship works.  You need to give a little to get a little, and seeing how the thing we might be getting is keeping our loved ones alive, the stars think that compromise is in all of your best interests.

So while this will undoubtedly not be the last time a tragedy like this occurs, at least next time it happens we can point to the things we did to try to make it better rather than to just spin our wheels in pain and frustration.  

And one last thing.  The stars want you to know that they love you.  They want you to be happy. They admire your strength and your resiliency and the fact that despite a number of bad things anyone can point to, on the whole you are way ahead of the game.  The world is still filled with joy and beauty and love, and that’s the human races accomplishment. They know you get a bad rap, especially from yourselves, but it is undeservedly so in most instances. Expect better of yourself and others, and watch how you blossom!

The stars are proud of you and they know the score, even if it’s not always apparent.  

10/3/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to tell you that if things and people in your life are annoying you, change your life or change your perceptions accordingly and stop being annoyed.

Or you can just go on the way you are. Like the stars always say, the choice is yours.

10/2/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:
The stars know you all have a lot of work to do in your march toward the light. They know it will contentious, they know that it will drive more wedges, they know that it will frustrate and twist you in two.
But the stars want you take a moment before you start your crusade and join the fray to hold tight to your loved ones and remember that we're all in this together.
Apparently there's no way, spiritual or otherwise, to prevent any of us from being senselessly taken from the arms of love in an instant.
The stars want you to recognize what's precious in your life, and realize that everyone involved has lost so much. Don't take any of it for granted, because that might be you someday, everything you cherish can all be gone on an instant.
The stars also want you to know that even though something horrific has occurred, there is still more light than darkness out there.
Keep that light in your heart, you're going to need it.

10/1/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to understand that people who are constantly worried about respect or can be easily offended probably don't have the greatest self esteem.

People with high self esteem really don't need the respect of every single person. They aren't looking for validation everywhere. What most people see as respect is really being subordinate. It is a control issue. Respect is a simple thing, and while you should demand respect in regards to people treating you fairly and as equals, that's not the same as demanding others do as you say or never question you or point out your foibles.

Confident people know who they are, and they don't care what other people think about everything they do. Ego demands we be noticed, and like children that never learn any better, we like attention any way we can get it. Some people are so desperate for attention that they co-op perceived offenses to other groups of people, just so they can basically say “look at me! I'm offended!”

The stars know that there are things to truly be offended by. They want you to understand that there is a difference between being over dramatic and actually offensive behavior. There are life and death situations that demand action. That's not being offended for the sake of being offended, that's trying to fix social problems or pointing out injustice or hatred.

Confident people don't really get that offended, even by personal attacks and humor that makes fun of traits possessed by them. They don't laugh at jibes made about other people, then get upset when the joke comes at their expense. People who are comfortable with themselves can laugh at themselves without it feeling like an attack. Many times, if you are easily upset by criticism, it is because it reveals an uncomfortable truth about you.

That said, if you find yourself being constantly offended and telling everyone about it in terms of how it affects you when it really doesn't, you should probably reexamine what things you're investing your time and energy on.

The stars want you to see that the things that other people say or do that get under your skin might be the things you should look at most. Not because those people are wrong, but in terms of why they bother you so much.

Sometimes the things we think are attacks are really just pointing out what we should be working on about ourselves.