11/04/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to stop punishing yourself. Sometimes we are heartbroken, and when that happens we tend to blame ourselves. Perhaps we feel foolish, or guilty, or we just need someone to blame.

We lose people over time. Our loved ones will be taken from us, and it will leave a scar. Instead of just celebrating who they were and what they meant to us, we can instead dwell on the past and look for regrets. We think about the times we may have let them down, or passed up a chance to spend more time with them or tell them you loved them.

Don't do that. Anyone who loved you wouldn't want you to spend one second berating yourself over something so meaningless.

There are times we fall in love, only to have it explode horrifically in our faces. We love people who are not capable of loving us back, or our feelings are not reciprocated. That doesn't make you a horrible person, or the guilty party. Not everyone is in a position to give a relationship the things that are needed,and not everyone is going to see the things in you that are truly lovable.

Be proud of yourself that you can love that fiercely, and go find someone that loves you for it.

Sometimes the people at love need help, and try as we may, we cannot save them. We beat our heads against their wall time and again, to no avail. We end up feeling like we failed, but that isn't the case at all. The fault was with them or their brain chemistry or their demons. We berate ourselves because we have no other target to hit.

You are to be commended for trying, not punished for failing a test that was rigged from the start.

The stars want you to realize that there are so many times where our first instinct is to take everything bad that happens out on ourselves. That is because we can. We often feel powerless, and sadly, abusing ourselves is always the easiest way to go. Or so it seems.

You end up killing a little part of you every time you do it. It adds up and takes its toll, until you are full of bitterness and self loathing. Don't do that to yourself. Learn to celebrate the good things you do and the love you have been given.

The stars want you to take it easy on yourself, because they love you, and no one who loves you wants to see you beat yourself up like that.

You shouldn't either.

11/03/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want you to remember that nobody said it was easy. They also want you to remember the old adage that no one said life is fair. There are a lot of other trite sounding words of wisdom to that effect, and they are pretty much true.

Tired old sayings aside, nothing worth having comes without some kind of work involved. It's very rare life just hands you something you didn't have to struggle for, with no strings or responsibilities attached. The sad thing is that life itself doesn't usually make it that hard on you most of the time.

The things that stand in our way are often self-inflicted. We constantly let fear sabotage whatever it is we are trying to accomplish. Then we spend even more time and energy trying to convince ourselves that it isn't us, it's other people, or cruel and fickle fate.

Often we keep people in our lives that we shouldn't, and we claim that even though they treat us bad, that we love them. We make excuses for them all the time, and somehow convince ourselves that we are the noble ones and they are the screw ups. Often we keep them around because we need them there to feel better about ourselves and to shoulder the blame for our own bad decisions.

We let them drag us down with them, we let them treat us badly, we let them make our lives harder. Then we lament about how nothing is easy and nothing is fair, yet we are the ones making it that way. That is what codependency looks like, and you are getting the worst end of it.

It's not just other people, we sabotage ourselves with our actions on our own everyday. Then we convince ourselves that it wasn't us that made the choice. More time and energy wasted.

The stars want you to look at your life and examine the people in it and the choices you make. Not just now, but every day. It is so easy to mess your life up in an instant.

For most of us, life is never going to be easy. Very few of us are born into privilege, and even those that are seem to have a pretty bad track record of making good choices.

But it could be easier.

That's definitely something to shoot for, and it's all within your reach.

11/02/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that you have little victories every day.

You are faced with choices constantly, and you usually make the right call, by a large margin. If not, your life would be a complete mess.

Even if you don't actively help everyone you meet, just not making their life worse is a victory. You'd be surprised how many people can make a messy situation messier effortlessly.

Any time you make someone laugh, you take their minds off of their troubles. Making someone laugh is a simple thing, but a completely overlooked little piece of magic.

And the stars know that there are some people that think small victories are meaningless, and the world is a horrible place where we bleed from a thousand tiny cuts. But if the tiny setbacks matter, that means that the tiny victories mean that much more.

Go be victorious. It suits you.

11/01/17

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars always want to encourage you, and remind you to stay the course, but they realize that they aren’t really telling you anything you don’t already know.  We all know what’s right, and we all know the things we don’t like about ourselves.

The stars are here to let you know that they believe in you, even if sometimes you don’t.  They are here to point out that we all face challenges and we all have amazing qualities, and it balances out and we’ll all be okay.  They can’t fix your problems, but they can try to help you keep them in perspective.

Sometimes that’s all anyone can do, and often times it’s enough.  So if there’s someone in your life that’s struggling, or trying to better themselves, or just having a bad day, don’t count on the stars to let them know it will be all right.  

You be their star.

10/31/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

Every one of us has a love story. Many different ones, in fact. We fall in love with people, yes, but we fall in love with so much more.

We can be in love with our pets, with ideas, with places, with songs and movies and TV shows, with inanimate objects. We can become obsessive, protective, and consumed with just about anything in our lives at some point.

We are so complex and so varied that there is no shortage of passion, and things to occupy it. We fret about whether our dog or cat is happy and healthy and buy it treats whenever we go to the store. We spend whatever time we can painting or writing or sculpting or playing music because we couldn't imagine not doing it. We wash and wax our car every weekend, we camp out to be first in line to a concert or movie, we work long hours at our dream job. We dote lovingly over the things that bring us satisfaction and happiness, and we do love them.

But that's not our love story.

There is the love of our lives, the one person we were meant to be with. The one person for whom we forsake all others. We spend our lives searching for a partner, someone we can trust and bond with, someone we can count on and share all life has to offer.

And yes, there can wind up being several, because we fool ourselves and people change, and we just aren't very good at choosing a life partner. We are not meant to be alone, the fact that falling in love is so intense and the chemical reactions involved are so overwhelming illustrates that.

We can be in love with our children, too. And our parents and siblings and friends. Love has a million definitions within us all.

Yet none of these is our love story.

Our love story is with ourselves. And as we learn with all the others, love stories don't always run smoothly, and they don't always have happy endings. We tend to put more effort into loving just about everything else in our lives than we do in loving ourselves.

Perhaps we don't think we are worthy of love, after all, we truly know all our secrets. Especially the ones that we can't even vocalize if we wanted to. The fleeting thoughts that shame us, the irrational anger or attraction we feel that disturbs us. The things we let slip away, the times we gave too much of ourselves away. A lifetime of things we can't begin to reconcile or even admit.

So we go on, treating our one true love badly. Blaming ourselves, ashamed of our true natures, fearing what we might really be. Abusing ourselves, or even worse, neglecting ourselves in an attempt to deny what we already know. Letting fear and doubts keep us from our love.

The stars want us to understand that until you figure out just who you are and embrace it, you cannot truly love yourself. Your love story will never start if you don't even know your lover, and it certainly won't end well.

More importantly, all those other people and things you love will ultimately feel hollow and unfulfilling. Whomever you love will always see that void, that conflict within you, and it might sabotage all the other love stories in your life.

Everyone of us has a love story, and it is with ourselves, and only we can destroy it, or make it a love for the ages. It will dictate everything you try to accomplish, everything you try to be. It truly is the love of your life.

The stars need you to know that it all starts there.

10/27/17 Friday Bonus

Today's Horoscope Friday Bonus!

All signs:

The stars want to congratulate you on making through another week. Take some time to relax and decompress.

They also want to let you know that many of the things you are worrying and crying about are things you should be laughing about instead. We get hung up on trivial matters along the way, and wind up giving them much more attention than they deserve.

So laugh it up and move on if it really isn't affecting your life that much. The world has no shortage of real problems for you to obsess over, but we'll worry about that on Monday.

Have a great weekend full of smiles and candy and questionable humor.

10/27/17

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want you to know that all the people you admire and look up to have to deal with a lot of the same things you do.  Misfortune, cruel treatment from people they know and people they don’t, heartache, self-doubt and self-hatred, worries over things they can’t control and cursing themselves when they let the things they can control get away from them, all the inner turmoil and insecurities that go with living.  

The difference is that they don’t let it show and they don’t let it stop them.

The world is scary, cruel and fickle and random.  We are all living in it, and yes, some people definitely start out with privilege and advantage, but we all start out with our own set of gifts.  Everyday you see people rise above their disadvantages by utilizing the advantages they recognize in themselves.  Sometimes we are so worried about what others have that we forget the things we possess.  

Many of the reasons we admire or respect people is because they rose above their station, or made it out of poverty or an otherwise bad situation.  They did that using the gifts they had and the drive to gain new knowledge to better themselves.  They took chances, they sacrificed, they believed in themselves when no one else did.  

You have that same ability and your own destiny to create.

The stars want you to know that many times the biggest obstacles we face in life are ourselves. They are not here to tell you that your struggles aren't real, they aren't going to tell you to just get over it. They are going to tell you to come out swinging, and see how far your sheer force of will can get you.

In case no one in your life tells you this, you are capable of great things if you want it. You might be surrounded by people telling you there's no use trying. You might be born into a society and economic situation that set you way back at the starting line. You are probably full of the same doubts and fears that plague everyone but true sociopaths.

But the stars want to tell you unequivocally that you have all the potential in the world. Nothing is easy, but it wasn't easy for those people you admire either. Go be someone that others look up to.