10/21/17

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to tell you that relationships need to be in balance. In many ways, but the way they are talking about today is almost literal.

In any relationship there is a scale, and in one side is everything you love and everything beneficial about the other person. In the other side is everything you don't like, the aggravation, the lies or the way they treat you. The disregard, the disappointment, the time they let you down because of selfishness, disinterest or malice.

Most of our relationships teeter totter back and forth on these scales, never achieving a harmonious balance, but never tipping so far to the negative as to end it.

But sometimes that's exactly what happens, and everyone's tolerance is different. Some people won't tolerate much deviation from the center point. One strike and you're out. Some people will let you get away with murder but as long as the scale doesn't tip over and explode, they will keep holding on.

One sure way to screw up your friend's or lover's scale of you is to repeat hurtful behavior. All the little quirks and mildly irritating habits will have a minimal overall effect on that balance. The love in the other side counts for a lot. The big things on the negative side are the repeated behaviors that you know hurt or upset them. The things you apologize for over and over again, but don't fix. When you hurt someone else with the same actions repeatedly, you are telling them that you know you are hurting them, but you just don't care.

When you do that to someone, you erode their confidence in themselves. You make them start to resent you, and to hate themselves for putting up with it. Then you are not only adding weight to the bad side of the scale, you are taking away from the good side. The scale is in free fall.

You can't truly love someone when you hate yourself. Once someone resents the fact that they love you, you are doomed.

The stars want you to understand that if you treat people this way, you will lose them, and once the scales tip, there is no setting them back in place. If you have a serious character flaw, you should take the time to fix it now, because it will haunt you, and tip every scale you have against your favor.