Today's Horoscope
All signs:
The stars want to remind you that you give control away all the time, you just don't notice it. That's because we don't automatically think of it as a control situation.
There are the obvious times we give control away. We sometimes find ourselves in relationships where we are not the dominant one. Be it some controlling lover, a friend or an alpha person in our group. We cede control to our bosses, and to authority figures like the police.
Those situations are mostly social contracts, and as long as the people in control don't abuse it, it's the way things work. We also give some of our control away in everyday financial situations. Whether it's a mortgage or car loan, a credit card or a cell phone, we sign a contract that binds us in certain ways. Even with apps and social media, you sign an agreement and give up some rights, even to your own intellectual property. Again, that's the accepted norm.
There are times when we are tricked into giving control away. Crafty advertising and unscrupulous politicians and clergy can make us believe things that aren't real. They can sell us on fad diets and miracle cures, or get us to vote against our best interests. Salespeople can confuse and manipulate us into spending our hard earned money on garbage we don't even need.
We give our control away in so many other ways that don't really involve contracts or user agreements. Any addiction is giving control away to whatever it is you're addicted to. Be it alcohol or drugs, sex or food, any compulsion you give into has control over you. Hence the expression “out of control.” We can be staunchly independent, and defiant of anyone that tries to tell us what to do, yet turn around and give complete control over to booze or cigarettes or cupcakes.
Then there are even more insidious ways we give our control away. We don't even think about it in terms of control. For instance, if you're angry at someone, you're giving them control. If you're obsessing over them, if you're worried about someone that's judging you, you're letting them control your thoughts and actions.
If you're concerning yourself over how other people are living their lives when it doesn't impact you at all, or finding yourself getting worked up over sensationalist news items, you are letting your fear and insecurities control you. The less you know about something and the fewer sources you get your information from, the less control you have.
Loss of control, like nearly everything else in your life, is brought on by fear. Fear of responsibility, fear of failure, fear of pain. Fear of fear, to be honest. Most of the time we can't even name our fears, yet we give control of our lives over to them in a heartbeat.
Being in love is usually the only time we notice that we give up some control, and it's also usually the only time we try to do anything about it. Most often that thing is to ruin whatever love we have. We are so afraid to give up control of our to heart someone that loves us that we end up giving control to insecurity, or to people that are even more insecure than we are.
The stars want to remind you that one the thing you control is control itself. You can work at recognizing who and what is trying to wrest control and power from you, and you can put a stop to it. If you are in control of how you feel about yourself, of how you want to be treated, of what you are prepared and comfortable giving up, then you never have to worry about anything controlling you again.
When you decide to take control over what's important in your life, you conquer fear and demand better. You can't be easily swayed by bullying or cajoling, or hyperbole and hollow rhetoric.
The stars want to remind you that control is yours, and you often give it away without even thinking. The stars want to remind you to think.
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