10/31/16

Today’s Horoscope

Some signs:

The stars want to remind you that there are an awful lot of people out there that don’t get it.  They don’t really understand most of the positions they have or even the things that they say.  It may seem like a large swath of humanity is just too stupid to live, but there aren’t really a lot of truly stupid people out there.  There are just a lot of people that have had seriously messed up upbringings, or no one in their lives that gave a shit and in turn they don’t give a shit.  

Or maybe they never learned any comprehension skills, or developed any critical thinking.  Maybe they were raised in different circumstances than you, and now they are connected to a world that is alien to them.  Maybe they are anti-intellectual because they never had a chance to learn about the things you take for granted.

The world has changed so much in the last few decades.  People that lived their lives in a simple and detached existence where many things didn’t even occur to them now are forced to think about things that they have no foundation in.  They are new to politics or pop culture or science, really anything that previously fell into a category that they could ignore and still get by reasonably well in their world.

But now they are connected, through the internet and 24 hour cable news.  They don’t know what is real and what isn’t.  They don’t understand abstract concepts and how to interpret a lot of what they see and hear, so everything loud and emphatic gets their attention and riles them up.

Let’s not even mention the fact that many of them hold outdated and borderline(or not so borderline) racist and misogynistic views. They were never taught any better and they don’t even see it as a problem, and they resent it when you point it out.

It doesn’t mean that they are stupid, or even wrong from where they are sitting.

What can you do if you are exposed to people like this all the time?  Not much.  You can try to calmly explain your side of it, but people don’t take kindly to being told what they think is wrong.  You can decide you hate them, and unfriend them or ignore them or mute them, although I don’t think that helps anyone. You can accept them and hope that your influence makes a difference.  

You might be surprised to find that most people are not evil, or hate filled, or even morons, they just don’t know any different.  Once they are exposed to the people they think are bad, they find that maybe those people aren’t the faceless monsters they viewed them as.  They start to humanize the people that previously disgusted them because now they have a face, and feelings, and redeeming values.  They find that they might have common ground.  They come to see that you can’t just lump a bunch of people together into one big catch all group.  Then their opinions change and maybe they aren’t as blind to things or racist or hateful as they used to be, and they grow.

The stars want you to understand, that scenario works for you too.

10/28/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:
The stars want to remind you that who anyone loves is none of your business. They don't care what religion you belong to, they don't care about your twisted ideas of what's right or wrong in this area, they just want you to shut up.
Some people just can't handle it when a man loves a man, or a woman loves a woman, or if a man wants to become a women or dress like a woman or vice versa. They have a whole range of issues with things that don’t even concern them. They do not understand or want to understand. Some people are brought up learning to hate, or they are frightened by things that they can’t comprehend. The problem these people have usually has nothing to do with what they think it is anyway.
People have a strange reaction to seeing others being free to be themselves. They admire it, but then for some, that admiration turns into anger and jealousy. It makes them ache inside because they can't be that free, that they can't be who they are. So those feelings manifest themselves into rage against what they truly wish they could possess. It is self loathing disguising itself as self righteousness.
They end up trying to keep others from doing the things that they desire. It is sad. These people live an existence that goes against everything they feel, and it must be horrible indeed.
The stars weep for those people, but they also refuse to legitimize their opinions. They are wrong, and the stars want to make sure that there is no wiggle room on this issue. It is nobody's business. None of it. Two consenting adults can do what they want with their bodies. Anyone can act or dress or feel how they like as long as it isn’t hurting anyone else. Period.
And if it is two people that love and respect each other, who bring each other joy and happiness, why would you want to deny them any of that? For any reason?
The stars want you to ask yourself, if it is love, or brings someone peace and happiness with who they are, why would you be mad about it? How can that be bad for anyone?

10/26/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to tell you something, and they aren’t always poetic about it.  Life hands you a lot of shit.  It is neverending.  You get dealt a lot of shit, the people in your life are dealing with all of their own shit, everyone you interact with, be they strangers in the parking lot or workers in the store, are being bombarded with shit even as you are standing there annoyed at having to talk to them.  Your coworkers, your waiters and waitresses, the toll booth attendant, bums living on the street looking for spare change, all living in a near constant shit storm.

We all have so much shit, and when we come in contact with anyone else, their shit that they are dealing with dictates their actions. When that all comes together, everyone usually gets new, exciting shit out of that too.

The point is, there is always going to be some shit you have to deal with.  So deal with it, and try not to take your shit out on everybody else.  If you do, well, not to be glib, but shit happens, so try not to make a habit out of it.  

The stars want to point out though, that just because life is filled with a lot of shit, life is not shit

Well, sometimes it can feel like it, but not for long.  

Human beings are all quite capable of handling their shit.  So many of us do it every single day, and the stars wonder if we don’t give ourselves enough credit sometimes.  It’s not easy, and most of the time the reward is simply that you got that shit done and over with.

And that’s it, really.  The stars simply want you to know that they understand, and they are proud of you.  They aren’t sure they could come close to handling the huge amounts of shit you do every single day.

They also want to remind you to be a little nicer to others as you go through your day.  You have no idea what shit they’re dealing with.  And if someone is going through some shit, give them a hand if you can.  Let them complain a little, and don’t get into a contest about who’s shit is worse.  Just listen and commiserate, and keep in mind that they are still going through that shit after they leave.

Maybe if we realize that we aren’t the only ones dealing with it, we can all get through this shit together.

10/25/16

Today’s Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want you to understand that even though you might know what the right thing to do is, doing the right thing is not always easy.  They aren’t talking about murder or rape or anything, the stars are talking about the same small(and sometimes big) failures we all have, sometimes on a regular basis.

We are quick to judge others, and even ourselves, harshly and unfairly.  No one that fails to do the right thing is happy about it, at least if they’re not a psychopath.  

Sometimes there is a pain so great that they sabotage themselves because they think that’s what they deserve.  They make the wrong decision because then they can tell themselves and prove to you that they are the horrible thing they think they are.

Sometimes they have an addiction, because of that pain, or because of their upbringing and genetics.  They struggle with it everyday, and everyday they fall deeper and deeper down a cold, dark hole.

Sometimes we just think “what the hell’ just this once, and we do the wrong thing just because we want something for ourselves, to make us feel alive, or to let people know we matter or we can’t be controlled anymore.

Sometimes they just don’t know any better.  Not everyone is brought up with the same benefits you were.  Some people are born into situations where they have no guidance or role models and end up rudderless.

Sometimes the “wrong thing” isn’t even wrong, it’s just that society’s mores haven’t caught up with humanity yet.  Laws and morals  are constantly in flux.  What was “wrong” a decade or two ago might be perfectly acceptable now. Maybe it’s “wrong” because different people have different belief systems.

Many of the people doing these wrong things mostly hurt themselves.

The point of bringing up all these wrong choices is because the stars want you to understand one simple thing: Making people feel worse about them doesn’t really make anything better.  Yes, some transgressions warrant punishment.  No, you shouldn’t let anyone hurt you with their choices on a continual basis.

But when someone screws up, or makes a foolish decision out of pain or youth that is part of a set pattern or can set them on the wrong path for the rest of their lives, maybe you should react with kindness first and see if that helps.  Maybe you can temper your chastising with pity.  Maybe compassion can make a difference, in their lives and yours.

It’s a tricky thing figuring out when to be lenient and when to be tough, either way you can always be caring and loving no matter which way you go.

And most importantly, treat yourself the same way when you mess everything up yet again in your life.  

The stars are more than willing you give you another chance to do the right thing.  That’s all anyone can ask for, and it’s yours to give, so choose wisely.

10/24/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars know. They know that sometimes life can seem like a sadistic test with nothing but trick answers.

They know that others can cut you down carelessly and take the wind from your sails and leave you adrift at sea.

They know that even when you see every angle, and comprehend the logic and reason of a situation, when you realize why things are the way the are and that they must be that way, that this knowledge only makes it more excruciating.

The stars know that there is a whole world in each and every one of us that no one else ever sees, even though it is right there in front of them and you want nothing more than for someone, anyone, to notice and get it. It seems no one ever will, either they can't see it or they just don't care because they are too busy with the big beautiful scary indescribable world swirling inside of them.

The stars know.

And they want you to know that you're beautiful and amazing and terrible and imperfect and almost too wonderful to exist.

But you do. You and that frighteningly gorgeous world you carry with you everywhere you go.

The stars know.

10/21/16 Friday Bonus

Today’s Friday Bonus Horoscope

All Signs:

The stars want to let you know that when you go out tonight, most of the stars you see when you look up at the sky don’t even exist anymore.  They burned out or exploded millions of years ago, and the light you’re seeing now is how they looked then.  That light still shines for a seeming eternity after they are gone.

They know that you have some friends who are like those stars, passed on, but still shining their light on you as you carry a piece of them around with you everywhere you go.  Who they were was too big to be contained in just their physical self.

Tonight when you have a drink, toast them and honor their memory.  Someday that ghost of a star will be you.  Shine as bright as you can now so people remember you fondly in their toasts when your light is all they have.  

10/21/16

Today's Horoscope

All signs:

The stars want to remind you that most wounds are self inflicted. You have a lot of tools, but many of them have sharp edges, so handle them with care, around others and especially around yourself.