1/24/19

Today’s Horoscope

There are times we share some of our most painful experiences with people, only to find that they don’t seem to be adequately impressed or sympathetic or concerned about it. In fact, they will often launch into their own troubles, as if it’s a competition. It almost feels insulting.
Don’t take it so hard. Some people are uncomfortable in those situations. Some see it as a chance to unload some of their burden and get over zealous, but keep in mind that they might not have anyone in their life who ever cared. Some people just don’t know how to handle it.
Most likely, the fact is that all the unimaginable things that have happened in your life and all the horrific ways people have hurt you aren’t that unique. Perhaps the tragic things you tell people seem pretty commonplace, and compared to their life, it doesn’t seem that bad.
That does not in any way mean that what has hurt you and what you are going through isn’t valid and important. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t share and you don’t deserve sympathy. It doesn’t diminish you or anyone else who has to deal with some of the atrocities life hands them.
What it means is that people have a long way to go as far as not being horrible to each other in the first place. As long as we treat each other badly, we are all going to be tormented by the memories of how people have destroyed us.
They can’t change the past. You can’t go back and fix it for them. You can’t change what the world has done to someone, you can just help them move on. So when someone comes to you and recounts some terrible thing that has scarred and wounded them, listen. Comfort them. Relate to them, if you can, without seeming like you are trying to one-up them.
Show them that just because someone was so damaged that they did something unspeakable to them, that’s not all there is in the world. Give them something to aspire to, not something to make them feel even worse about, and without any place to go when they are hurting.
The stars want you to realize that sometimes people only want to feel like someone cares. Is that too much to give them?