Today’s Horoscope
All Signs:
The stars know that death is one of the hardest things to deal with. The loss of a loved one is never easy. You can try to concentrate on all the good things, but even those memories can make you sad. You will spend the rest of your life wondering “what if” about a million things, and even though you know that will lead nowhere good and is probably not even important, you can’t help it. There are feelings of guilt and blame where there really shouldn’t be. There is the feeling that you could have done more, but hindsight isn’t always 20/20. We imagine we should have seen or done something different, when in reality we did just fine.
We have our funerals and wakes and celebrations of life, and it brings us some kind of closure. It helps us to be around others who knew and loved them too. Stories are shared, we cry on each other’s shoulders, and we get through it together.
Nowadays, we have a whole new bunch of friends on social media. We share things with them, we laugh and cry and talk, and even fight now and then. We forge friendships that are sometimes as strong as the ones we have “in real life”. The stars think that it’s funny we use the term “in real life”. Isn’t social media part of your real life? The bonds you form online are often just as real and important as anything flesh and blood you can touch.
People fall in love online, people save lives online, lasting friendships are formed online, people are just as much people online as they are in your everyday physical world. Sometimes even moreso.
So when you find out that a friend on social media, someone you never actually met, or even heard their voice, has died, it is a strange feeling at first. Then you realize that you shared something with that person. They touched your life, they occupy a part of your brain, and a part of your heart as well. You were there for their triumphs, their setbacks, all the struggles. There for the good times and the laughter and tears. You may have told them things you didn’t even tell the people in your “real life”.
Some of those friends were there for you in a way no one else could be, just as you were there for them. And when they are gone, you feel an emptiness where they used to be. Not all of them, just like “in real life”, you have close friends, acquaintances, and people you interact with once or twice a year. But they all mean something, and when the ones that meant a lot are gone, it hurts just as badly.
So do what you do in real life. Celebrate their lives. Share their stories with the people who knew them. Remember the good times, and try to forgive and forget the bad. In the end, the bad doesn’t seem that bad at all. The stars want you to grieve the dead, no matter where you knew them from. It is natural, and it matters, and it is important. To think that someone you never met in physical form is somehow lesser than “real life” is to deny the very thing that makes us human. We are all a bunch of meat and bones walking around, but who we are is an abstract thing that we can’t really touch at all, except with our hearts. In some ways, the people online are more essentially human than anyone.
RIP Rob Hernandez
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