Today's Horoscope
All signs:
One the most basic human needs is that we want to feel like we matter. We look for evidence that people truly care about us, and we want little signs as well as grand gestures to show it.
Often, people are too busy with their own insecurities to spend all their time reassuring us. Sometimes that can seem like they are going out of their way to make the point that they don't care, but that's most likely in your head. We are so focused on what they should be doing for us that we forget that they have their own life to live.
So we become needy, and any perceived slight makes us we feel insignificant and like the people who are supposed to love us don't. Add to that the fact that many people don't know how or are afraid to show their feelings, or that some people are self absorbed and don't actively consider other people's feelings. Some people think dependency of any kind is a weakness, and won't acknowledge it in themselves or others. Still others lack empathy, or have sociopathic traits, and are incapable of realizing your needs.
The point the stars is trying to make is that you should have people in your life who make you feel like you matter, but it isn't something you should expect reassurances about constantly. If you have that, you should realize how fortunate you are. If you expect it, eventually you are going to see everything someone does that doesn't relate to you as a slight, and proof you don't matter.
It goes the other way, too. If someone matters to you, tell them. More importantly, show them. It doesn't take a lot of effort to make someone feel needed, and if you can't be bothered doing it, there is always someone else who can. Then you will find how little you really matter.
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