1/4/18

Today's Horoscope

All signs:
The stars can't stress enough that we should always be kind and empathetic. We should always care about others and do what we can to help and make their lives easier, especially those we love.
They want to make sure that you understand that helping because you care, and helping because you are afraid of losing someone or wanting someone to like you are two different things. Sometimes we are afraid to be alone. Sometimes we lose ourselves in the process of trying to please others. We think if we cater to their every need selflessly that they will be beholden to us, or even shamed into reciprocating. It will often have the opposite effect. We end up enabling them and losing ourselves.
When we do everything someone else wants, we are sending a message. That message is that we don't respect our own needs, or think very highly of ourselves. We are saying that our needs aren't important, that we don't matter. Naturally, others will start to feel the same way about us.
Part of what makes people like and need you is strength and confidence. If you act like a subservient jellyfish, you will find yourself treated like one. It's a very fine balance you have to strike, where you give love and support, yet refuse to be mistreated and taken the granted. Too much one way or the other, and people get resentful.
So take care of yourself as much as you take care of anyone else, be they friend or lover, parent or child. Be there for them, but have rules and boundaries, and stick to them.
The stars know that it doesn't matter if you're not alone if you're not happy anyway.