Today's Horoscope
All signs:
Today you will be tempted to harm yourself while harming or trying to control someone else. Sadly, many will give in to that temptation. It happens so frequently they made up a macabre saying about it long ago: cut off your nose to spite your face.
As with everything else, it is action born of fear. What other state of mind could you be in if you're knowingly harming yourself and others?
Sometimes it's blatantly obvious. Depriving yourself of something just so the other person suffers too. Cancelling plans so neither of you get to go to the show. Picking a fight before the party so you both sit home miserable. Do it often enough and you might find yourself alone provided the person you are doing it to has ample self worth. A helpful tip from the stars: if you are in a relationship where this scenario repeats itself over and over and seems to be working, neither of you belong in a relationship.
Be careful though, it can be so much more insidious and damaging than that. Many times we do it and the results aren't as obvious as a missing nose, do we don't recognize it. In fact, a lot of it will play out in our heads, and your face won't even know about the spite.
We're talking about petty fears and jealousies, and perceived inadequacies in ourselves that stop us from finding happiness. We suspect ones we love of doing things that they probably are not doing, so we do little spiteful things like not call them or answer the phone when they call us. We make snide, passive/aggressive comments intended to make them feel shame or guilt about transgressions that don't even exist. We even put them down or insult them and call them names, like children in the schoolyard.
We seethe and boil just under the surface, so sure that something is going on and we are being made the fool. Most likely, that is just fear and your ego ganging up to sabotage your life again.
We spend our days vacillating between doubt and anger and terror, and we behave accordingly. We end up living in misery until one day it all blows up and you find yourself alone. You've driven off someone that loves you and doomed yourself once again.
The stars weep for you. They have an answer, but it's not one you're going to like. If you have these fears and suspicions, examine them and make sure there's a reason to have them in the first place. If there truly is, then by all means discuss your feelings with the person and find out what's going on in an adult and rational manner. If you're not satisfied with the answers you get, it might be time to move on.
But if you honestly and truly examine all the evidence and find that you have none but a voice screaming in your head, born out of insecurity and making irrational claims, then you have to change. You need to trust the people you love, and more importantly trust yourself. Trust that you are worth loving, and you are worth having others keep you in their lives. And if you're not that person, become that person. When we like who we are, we expect to be liked by others, and we gain confidence that we deserve the love we receive rather than doubt it. We all have that opportunity, but so few of us take it.
Without that trust and love you are just going to keep driving people away. It's another one of those simple truths of the universe, as plain as the nose on your face. Providing you still have a nose…
Pisces:
Would it kill you once in awhile to hold a fucking door open for the person behind you? Be a little more aware, okay?
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