6/19/19

Today’s Horoscope

If there is anything you need to apologize for, then do it. Don’t worry that it was a long time ago, don’t look at it like you got away with it just because no one is beating down your door demanding reparations. Don’t talk yourself into any of the excuses that let you off the hook for your bad behavior. Don’t look at it from the position of how it will affect you, see it from the perspective of the people you have already hurt and how it affects them.
So many people get hurt and damaged in their lifetime, and no matter how much love and support and logic and strength they have, there can still be a hole in their lives surrounding it. They carry scars and anxiety and depression, they lose self worth, as well as all the time and energy spent dealing with and trying to understand the pain people have saddled them with. When the person who hurt them never apologizes or acknowledges what they did, it denies them closure, and peace of mind. It leaves them wondering if they deserved it, and can affect their lives dramatically going forward. It can find them putting themselves in similar bad situations without even realizing it, simply because they are looking for answers as to how someone could have done what they did to them. You could help to heal all that damage by simply acknowledging and apologizing to them.
If you do apologize, do it correctly. Don’t just say the words, don’t deliver it with caveats or excuses, or talk about how you were a different person back then. Own what you did. State it, unequivocally, and in detail. Show that you understand the damage you caused, and that you will learn from it. Recognize what your transgression entailed, and accept responsibility for it. Yes, it will be scary, but that’s just how it is. Being an adult and a decent human being means doing things that make you uncomfortable and even frightening at times, and in the end you will feel better, and be a better person because of it.
The stars realize that getting sincere and heartfelt apologies from the people who have wronged you is a very rare thing indeed. Most people will avoid confrontation at any cost, and many of the people who do harmful things are blissfully unaware that they are doing them. Many more are aware, but admitting to their wrongs means facing a lot of unpleasant truths about themselves, so they are loathe to make apologies for anything they do.
If you are one of the many people who have been hurt badly by someone, the stars want you to know that you are most likely never going to get the apology and closure that you need. You may forever live with that hole in your life, that open wound that you bumps into everything you are, and keeps right on hurting.
The stars want you to know that you might have to find a way through it somehow without that apology. Even if you do get that apology one day, you can’t put your life on hold until you do. It’s not satisfying, and there’s no easy way to do it, but the only other choice is living some half-life that stunts and stifles you. If you can’t move past it on your own, get professional help. Maybe you can work to help other people who have been hurt in the same way, and take control of it in the process. The point is, you can’t count on the people who hurt you to also be the ones to fix you. You need to fix yourself, whether you get the acknowledgement and apology or not.
Otherwise you’re always going to be broken, and the stars are telling you that’s no way to go through life.